Why black Men Give Us Babies But Won’t Stay?
Disclaimer: This is my opinion and not reflective of all black women.
First off, black women are beautiful. Secondly, so are black men. Although both genders have the potential to be some of the most beautiful people in this world; only the latter has won that spot. How? By showing other races that they can devalue, produce, abandon, and still maintain a healthy relationship with others. Black women have longed be seen as least attractive when put up against their counter-parts, (any other race). Being a black woman, I became curious and began observing myself along with my friends and other women of all backgrounds to prove whether or not the belief was true. Sadly to say, it exists. We are the ugliest race of women out there…but how did it come to be.
Ever wonder what percentage of single black women raising kids alone make-up the worldly population? Well the numbers are astronomical! Being that the black race alone only makes up 13% of the American population, we have over 50% of our households being run by single black mothers with children under the age of 18 years old. Why? Simply stated, expectations and standards are low amongst blacks but especially amongst the black woman. When did we become so low that we felt it to be acceptable for us to raise a child alone? Perplexing to say the least, but it’s true, black women have lower standards and expectations than other races. The problem dates back to our own upbringing and whether or not our own parents held high expectations of themselves. Today, more women are sleeping with men and having more casual sex before actually comprehending what she really wants out of life. And by that time, she has already succumbed to the poison embed in the black system and bore a child into a single parent household, but the scariest concept of it all is that she is okay with it and accepts it as if it’s the norm, and news flash for all-It is not nor should it ever be!
So, how does these low expectations and acceptance of anything affect our culture? It makes the black women look unattractive to any other man even to the man who gave her the child in the first place. Even he is turned off from her lowness. Of course, many of you are reading this article and thinking, how dare someone say black women are losing in the game, but one thing I have always been is a reflector and reflection is a powerful element. If a woman is able to lure a man into her home, date, have sex, and bare his child, why can’t she make him stay? Why do black men keep leaving black women? Why does the black woman keep letting the black man leave?
It’s because of the low standards and the easiness that the black woman displays verses the sturdiness and high expectations of their other counterparts; therefore, even the black man has begun to look outside his race for someone to place those high demands on him and in some sense, force him to do right and grow up! Nowadays, majority of black women are happy just to have a man’s baby whether the man remains or not is not an issue to her, for in her mind, she has won over the other women, but in actuality she has lost plenty.
Every time a black woman has a child with a black man and that black man leaves her to make other babies with other black women, he destroys his blood line and in turn indirectly tells the world that black women aren’t shit. Our expectations are so low that black men come to us when they have nothing and need someone to accept their low qualities, but soon as they get back on their feet, zoom zoom, he’s gone again, and he’s not taking the black woman nor the kids with him. It’s normal to him just like its normal to her for the mother to raise the child in a single household; with the black race making up less than half of American’s population, we have the highest percentage of black women raising kids alone and receiving government resources based on our population by ratio.
So why are black women losing the game? It’s our standards. We place low standards on our men, we place low standards on ourselves, and our kids witness this destruction of family and thus a cycle is started and sadly will not be broken by many. Once black women get that man, have his baby, and he leaves to go on to the next one, that woman is forced to become half and half-half woman and half man. I’ve witness black women become so stressed and disoriented that their appearances become manly, their aggression becomes manly, actions become manly, and finally they live the life of a man for trying to be both the woman and the man. Her femininity is taken away as she tries to live a double life of responsibility that is meant to be shared by two not one.
Women should be gentle, soft, and delicate, but with two young kids running around her house and having to work and pay bills there is no time for her to display those qualities, so what other men are seeing is a strong robust woman trying to make it out here in this world. A woman who has forgotten what it feels like to be a GIRL. A woman, who is trying to get her kids out the house so she can focus on a relationship, which by that time, she’ll appear so manly, no man will want her. So, what is the black man doing while the black woman is transforming into the man? Most of them are getting ready to produce another messed up black family and others are trading sides, for they find it rather slim with the pickings of attractive black women.
Women weren’t designed to raise kids alone, take care of a home, and be feminine all at once. Its absolute impossible and for black men to suggest that it is-is outrageous. Amusing as it might be, the same men that give these now ugly unworthy women the kids, usually end up with a woman who doesn’t have his kids; and most of the time, she is the one he marries. What’s up with that? What sign does that send to the universe but that the black woman was good enough to have sex with, and her sex was good, but I didn’t love her, so I left, and the other four after her had the same thing going for them, but I’d much rather be with this woman who doesn’t have my kids, because she looks better?
In summary, black women are losing the game more than other women because over half our race is being brought up in a single mother household where the woman who is meant to be feminine is being forced by the black man/nature to take his place in the world and be father; therefore, the universe responds to this shift in connectivity and provides the woman with the critical attributes to sustain her living causing her to look more masculine, more aggressive, more angry, and less feminine, for feminine women are just that…feminine and thus should only be responsible for feminine things. Even the dictionary regards femininity as music occurring on a metrically weak beat…delicacy and prettiness. There is nothing delicate about raising two children, working a full time job, and keeping up a house hold. There is nothing pretty or appealing about that, so black women, you have heard the stories; you’ve witnessed the feeling of betrayal felt when black men leave their race of women behind, but the question is what will you do now that you’ve come and you’ve heard? You are ugly, you are unworthy, and your standards are the lowest, is what society has said about us! It shows in your face, your choice of words, your choice of career, and your choice of men. Nowhere is it written that a woman is responsible for being the head of the household, but unfortunately black women we make up over half. But the worst thing is we accept it!
Here’s a suggestion: Everybody messes up at least once in their lives; therefore, we charge it off to the game, but in order to bring your attractiveness back, and bring femininity back to your bodies, take a step back from the stove, let the reins go from the horse, take your hand off the steering wheel, and give masculinity back to the man…its ugly on you. Put some expectations on him, hike up your standards; stop running yourselves to the grave too early trying to do something even science says is impossible and that’s trying to be a man. If you want to be the man then unfortunately you will inherit his looks and actions too.
As Beautiful Black Women, we are what other women strive to be when it comes to physical attributes, our skin, our breasts, our curves, our butts, our everything! So why can’t we force our men to step up and meet us where our standards are whether than stooping down to his? He will respect you more when you put your foot down and start loving yourself first! Start taking care of your feminine needs and allow him to be the man in your life by not accepting the low digs, the unacceptable behavior, and show him we are a race of women who have high standards and expectations and if it means leaving him, then ok, but don’t dare take his manhood away by doing his job as nature would have it!
