Sonya Missy Vance
There is nothing more powerful than the mind. A person’s heart is controlled only the mind. What information is received through the ears is transported straight to the brain and held there. From there, one is able to conceive a thought, which in turn creates a feeling.
The words cancer had to enter Missy’s ears first and then travel straight to her brain and from that, her brain reported to her heart. Ok. Missy, what do you feel?
Feeling=an emotional state of reaction
What do you feel Missy? At that time, several feelings erupted within the heart trying to situate itself upon only one, yet several sprawled out of control all at once. The thoughts of MyMy, my daughter, what will happen with her, I will have to be strong for myself as well as for her because God gave her to me, I am her mother. My job is to protect her, so what about her? How will I do this?
The thoughts of Wooder, my mother, who gave birth for me, what will I say to her, that’s more strength I will need in order to endure this. What should I feel then?
Missy had several feelings to choose from: defeat, gladness, misery, triumph, depression, joy, sadness, happiness, anger, perseverance, resentment, and strength. But Missy threw them all down and decided to choose nothing but LOVE.
She continued to laugh, she continued to say whatever she desired with no filter because that’s exactly what made us love her! She didn’t change…she didn’t change.
She continued to be mean, yet she was witty. Despite what you felt, she said how she felt and that was that, but it was just fine because that’s why we loved her!
Missy chose love. With love nothing goes wrong. She knew that. Missy chose the feeling of love. Seven years of unconditional unmeasurable love. Love that can not be measured by a ruler, a measuring cup, or any mathematical equation. Missy chose love by focusing on her family being with us whenever possible. Love that MyMy felt more than anyone and love that Wooder will keep with her forever. A thought is conceived through words which are received by the ears and seven years ago, Missy heard words that could have defeated her and taken her into despair, but Missy: Mean, beautiful, Witty, Funny, witty, and full of laughter. Missy: a wonderful mother, a devoted daughter, a sister, and a tremendous friend chose love out of all the feelings in the world to feel.
Missy chose this one-LOVE-because it is the best one to FEEL!
February 29th, 1972-May 16th, 2015