Black Wonder Woman!!! But Why?
Black women lead the race as being the most successful educated women in the world.
Whoop Whoop! Hooray for us!
How sad our black brothers must feel hearing the news that they have been surpassed by the weaker sex in the realm of success. Even with the statistics speaking volumes to the black community that our sisters are running our families and leading our children, it also pumps the black woman’s ego into believing that she is now invincible and shall we say Wonder-Woman?
Why is this entitlement such an aspiration for our black women is yet to be understood or researched, but I stand strong and believe that as black women, we want what white woman have, which is a strong providing man who we can follow and let lead, but with most of our brothers being raised by strong black women alone, we are left with a feminized generation of black men who have the slightest idea on what leading a family and being a man even looks like!
I praise our black women for having the desire to better themselves in the avenue of education and career, but what rule denoted that we as black women must also adopt the strong woman mentality? Knowing what we know about our generation and our black men, black women can’t afford to gain control in every element of our being. Black women don’t cry anymore, black women can’t show emotions in the presence of a man, and black women aren’t allowing black men to see their vulnerability out of fear of being seen as less than him,-weak, which in grand scheme of life and living, she is exactly that-the weaker sex.
Sure this sounds contradictory of everything black confidence stands for, and it seems as if we can’t win for losing regardless of the decisions we make. It seems we either settle for the lifestyle our black man creates for us, or we go out and make it happen and get it for ourselves! I use the word settle because it seems black women have been granted more opportunities than our black men-limiting them to fewer options on being able to provide and lead a family. And in return, black women are becoming stronger, alienated our black men, and less feminine from trying to take the role of a man.
As an educator, I notice the strong woman mentality or pimped-up aggression inside young black girls and during conversations with them I learn that they are hurting and angry with their lives even as children. They want the nice clothes, they want the nice homes, and the loving parents. And when placed in an environment, such as school with children from all walks of life, they become aware of their situations, which channels into determination and anger!
Just the other day, I took a little girl into my arms during lunch-time and had a conversation with her about her negative actions and attitude. I asked if she was angry with the teacher or another student, but neither was the culprit to her agitation; therefore, we concluded that she was just angry with being seen as less than the other girls at the school and whenever she was reprimanded for not having homework or talking out of turn, she lashed out as if the whole world could see her dysfunction or could read her mind and learn the thoughts in her mind that she wasn’t worthy of more.
After consoling her and hugging her, I developed a sense of understanding and promised myself that my goal for this year is to make her cry! I want her to feel her emotions and become a little girl not a strong little lady! Crying cleanses the soul and recuperates the mind leaving us released and ready to start again. But rarely, even as adults, black women see crying as a weakness, which bewilders me, for we are women not men, so who cares if we cry? We are built to cry! Our bodies are meant to show emotions. And rather we have a doctorate degree in biology or work at the general dollar store, black women should never become so engulfed with being the Man that she doesn’t take time to mend her feminine energy and baste in the greatness of being a woman and allowing a man to be a man!
The best feeling a black woman can feel is feeling comfortable enough to show her vulnerability, let her guard down, and give the torch to her man while supporting him as he leads the way! Sure, we can keep succeeding in our careers, but our doing so, only contributes to the black family, it should never be the sole resource, and she should never be the leader.
Maybe the message should be written to the black man, but since I am a black woman, I can’t speak on what he needs to do. I can only say that whatever is going on with him, we can’t be making it any easier for him by stepping on his toes. It is not necessarily the education that we receive that makes us strong independent women, but the mentality that comes with the degree. It’s almost like taunting to hear results that black women are the most educated women in the world.
~Drea Yaya
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